We have always done it this way

There is a story about a lady who cut the end off the piece of ham before she cooked it. She did this because her mother did. One day she asked her mother why she did this and she said my mother did this so I do it because she did it. The lady went

I don’t have the experience qualifications etc.

The straight answer to that objection is do something about it. We may have work-related skills that will help us become self-employed. In order to do this, we also need some basic business skills like finding customers, bookkeeping and filling in tax forms. There are many ways of picking up such skills from books or courses

We have always done it this way

There is a story about a lady who cut the end off the piece of ham before she cooked it. She did this because her mother did. One day she asked her mother why she did this and she said my mother did this so I do it because she did it. The lady went

It is too hard for me

We can easily say that something is too hard for us to achieve for some reason. However, what we believe we can do is our own choice. For example, we can believe that we cannot go to a conference on our own. Even if we need extra support, say because we have a hearing impairment

What I am able to make or create is not good enough

This is a reason for not doing things that is particularly damaging to craftspeople who make things to sell to others. However it can affect anyone. A craftsperson who makes unique items needs to believe in their own talent. Often they compare what they do to everyone else but then believe that their product is

What will they say?

They say that no man is an island. If we say that we want to do something other people with the gift of seeing the possible pitfalls and who think something about us will try and warn us of the problems ahead. The power of criticism According to Napoleon Hill, one of most people’s greatest

What is in it for me?

We can look at an activity and ask how we would benefit from it. We could see the pain of playing sports but not see the thrill of achievement or enjoyment of taking part. We see the downside rather than the upside. It is a case of how can you do that because… Yet the

If I do this then the family will suffer

There are few people who are given one role in life. Many people are both parent and spouse. Others have older dependants to support as well as one of both those roles. Then there is work to do or other income generating activities that need to be carried out. Not forgetting a home and garden

We listen to our self talk

What on earth is self talk? It is that inner voice that can, when it is positive, act as our cheerleader. It can tell us yes you can do it. On the other hand, it can be negative and therefore become our greatest critic. It can call us names like idiot or accuse us of